The term “bridezilla” is not just an urban legend: it is easy to morph into a stressed out, fire-breathing- dragon-wearing-white when you are trying to get all the details of a wedding planned. A “groomzilla” may be less of a well known term, but the groom is no less prone to anxiety than his partner in crime. Learning to manage your stress and keep things on an even keel is a crucial component of planning your special day, and the following tips are designed to help you do just that.
Create a “Game Plan”: Whether you are the type who totes their color-coded planner everywhere or the type who gets things done at the last possible second, creating a timeline for getting things done will help keep your mind at ease. Draft a calendar and list of tasks with deadlines, so you can see clearly what needs to get done in a given period of time. This will help ease anxiety because what you need to get done is clearly presented in front of you, and you can maintain a good sense of accomplishment by crossing things off the list as you get them completed. Caterer serving buffalo burgers? Check. Florist willing to combine cala lilies with sunflowers? Check.
Take Time as a Couple: It is easy to get caught up in all the planning and preparation work, and doing that can cause you to lose touch with one another. Set aside time during the week that you can spend together doing something you love, and make sure that you talk about something other than wedding planning. Doing this will enable you to re-connect, keeping a constant state awareness about why you are stressing about planning this day in the first place.
Enjoy “Me” Time: On the same tack, it is crucial to take some time for yourself during all of the wedding hoopla. As much as you might enjoy planning a wedding, stepping back and taking alone time can help keep you centered and relaxed. Whether it’s reading a book, going on a hike, meditating or playing golf, carve out time where the only thing you have to focus on is yourself. You will be a happier person for it.
Ask for Help: One word: delegate. Your family and friends love and support you, and if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by all of the tasks at hand, reach out to those around you. Have Mom handle coordinating with the florist. Ask the Maid of Honor to make sure that all of the bridesmaids are getting their dresses fitted. Plead with your sister to get your Celtic engagement ring buffed to an eye-blinding shine. By assigning tasks to others, it can take stress away from what you have on your plate, and your family and friends get to help ensure that your wedding day is one that you will remember forever.